In dealing with divorced couples I am often struck by the unanswered question that sometimes hang in the air. Is there not a way to make this work, again? Then you look at one or both of them and you see the tiredness in the eyes the tired draw around the lips and you know. […]
In the last few weeks I have been confronted by women that asked for advice on dealing with their daughters not wanting to visit their fathers anymore. Herewith what I think. Most single parent homes are managed by females and mothers. Males to a large extent are not involved in the daily live’s of these […]
egalitarian ɪˌɡalɪˈtɛːrɪən/ adjective 1. believing in or based on the principle that all people are equal and deserve equal rights and opportunities. “a fairer, more egalitarian society” noun 1. a person who advocates or supports the principle of equality for all people. “he was a social and political egalitarian” Being an inherent egalitarian by nature […]
As a non Buddhist the concept of compassion has intrigued me. I never looked at it from a gender perspective, this video is for me the most apt definition of Compassion that I have come across. We live in a hurried way, we don.t stand still to see the picture, its moving to fast. The […]
Sex,attraction and intimacy.
When couple’s divorce sex or rather the lack and demand thereof becomes one of the driving forces for wanting to change a partner. I believe we are programmed to mate (get into relationships) for the pure reason of procreation. We as a species then developed strategies for our survival (Commitment) in that time. We write […]
I have a problem with more and more security in my open spaces where I would have liked to be safe without guards protecting me. More and more guards and police will not solve the problem of security. By militarizing our open spaces and and communities we are killing our freedom guard by guard. We […]
Time is the greatest gift we can give those around us. There is a sickness that I find more and more with parents and partners in relationships, ” I am too busy’. Relationships take time, we need to switch off and connect with one another. We cant have the same attitude with my spouse and […]
The Buddhists’ refer to the way our mind runs our lives and jumps all over the place without having the ability to focus on a specific area for long as “ Monkey Mind’ This concept alludes to the fact that our minds keep jumping from place to place and does not have the ability to […]
Happiness as an activity. We have a dream to be happy and content with no stress and no challenges. We tend to forget that the challenges we overcome are the basis of our belief in ourselves. We don’t have a sudden belief in our own abilities and skills. What our trials and tribulations teach us […]
